PODCAST 08: The gremlins stealing your capacity for more

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I've shared before that I have a kind of obsession with time: what we put on our to-do lists and how we make space for what's important - in life and business. 

I want to start with a story. A story about how a college class RUINED NAPS for me.

Way back my sophomore year of college I took a basic economics class, where I was introduced to the concept of opportunity cost. Opportunity cost basically says when you choose one thing you lose the potential gain from all other alternative options. Another way to look at opportunity cost is to see how saying YES to one thing means saying NO to something else.
And this is what ruined my napping habits: I couldn't stop thinking about how taking a nap was giving up something else that was more important - either doing more school work or hanging with my friends - and I just stopped saying YES to naps. 

Fast forward to roughly 10 years later, when my youngest son was not yet sleeping though the night (which, to be honest, he didn't do until he was in 1st grade... it's not normal, but we made it through! If you're parenting a small child and running your own business, honey, I feel you.)
In the morning, I'd wake up and my first thought would be, "I'm so tired..." I'd hit snooze at least twice, and when I couldn't deny it any more, I'd drag myself out of bed and drink the equivalent of 3 espressos while I showered - I wish this was an exaggeration but it's not. It felt like my body was wrapped in a weighted blanket as I went through the motions of getting ready for work and the youngest ready and out the door to school... And the whole day that feeling would linger, and I'd do my best to pretend it wasn't there. I thought, "We're all of us busy and tired... aren't we?" I thought this is just what being an adult legitimately looked like, and I saw it modeled all around me - I wasn't the only one by any means! 

I was exhausted. I had not slept more than a few hours at a time for years and you know what? I STILL struggled with the opportunity cost of taking a dang nap! I was thoroughly convinced that getting stuff done was more important than feeling good, and I was 100% wrong. Not only did I suffer physically and mentally, but all aspects of my life were taking the hit: my relationship with my partner and my kids suffered, my work was well executed but lacked the creativity I'd become known for, and it felt like I wasn't making a difference any more. I was burnt out.

In her book The Gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown talks about cultivating play and rest, which she equates to letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth. She says, "The same gremlins that tell us we're too busy to play and waste time fooling around are the ones that whisper... "Napping is for slackers." I wish I'd gotten my hands on her book sooner!

Now one day, feeling especially tired and out of sorts taking the youngest to preschool, I nearly rear-ended a stopped car, and in the process of avoiding the collision, I spilled very hot coffee all over myself and scared the heck out of myself and my kiddo. Luckily for me, that's all that happened. It could have been so much worse. No one got hurt, no damage was caused, but it was the wake up call I needed because in that moment of terror it hit me: 
this isn't working and it changes NOW before something truly tragic happens.

I realized that saying NO to rest meant that I was saying "no" to so much more.
-> Saying YES to (quote-unquote) "productivity" was eating away at my ability to be truly present in my work - and that meant that I was so focused on doing what was in front of me at any given moment that I lost sight of the big picture.
-> Saying NO to naps meant I was too tired to be fully engaged with my partner, my sons, and my friends. I was missing out on the joy of those relationships because I was so exhausted and denying myself the rest and play I needed most to fix that situation.

Because of this realization, I started working on my relationship to work. And it eventually led me to notice the truly impactful foundations that successful entrepreneurs build their businesses on, that are operating in the background and having an oversized impact on whether a business makes it or not.

I have some questions for you:
Does it feel like your life and business is a browser with too many tabs open?
Have you ever had one of those days: you work hard, but at the end of it you wonder, “did I even get anything done?”
What would become possible for you if every week, you were completely clear on your priorities and you acted accordingly?

Then I have some good news for you;
I just put the finishing touches on a new FREEBIE called Planning for Profit and Pleasure. with this freebie, you create a plan for the week that's like a compass, helping you to
Prioritize the right stuff at the right time, leading to more pleasure and profit in your business
Stop wasting time on indecision and “busy work“
AND built-in agility & flexibility for the unplanned and unpredictable

You can get it by visiting the show notes for this episode or hitting up changeagent.studio and clicking the link on the home page.